Over the last year I have been blessed with an innumerable amount of wonderful opportunities for my business. I have worked with brands I’ve dreamed of partnering with, walked in a runway show for Express, met some of my favorite women in business, and even started several passive income streams. At the same time though I have also dealt with Imposter Syndrome.
If you don’t know what Imposter Syndrome is, it’s essentially where you feel like any time now someone is going to call you out and say, “hey, you’re not qualified to be doing “x.” As a severe perfectionist as well, this mindset is a trap I often fall into. I question if I’m certified enough to be giving out business advice. I wonder if one day someone will message me and say, “hey, aren’t you a little young to be trying to teach others?” I doubt my talents. I doubt my capabilities. I doubt my knowledge. I doubt, I doubt, I doubt.
A vicious cycle that I knew needed to stop.
There’s this quote out there that stems from 1 Corinthians 1:27-29 and it says, “God doesn’t call the qualified. He qualifies the called.”
The verse of 1 Corinthians 1:27 is , “Isn’t it obvious that God deliberately chose men and women that the culture overlooks and exploits and abuses, chose these “nobodies” to expose the hollow pretensions of the “somebodies?” Talk about an encouragement, am I right?!
I’ve written this verse down and the quote above on every place I would see it regularly. It reminds me that the Lord has equipped me with everything I need to be successful in the calling that He has placed on my life. Bad news, missed opportunities, self doubt, nor Imposter Syndrome can ever come between that calling. A calling set in motion before I was even born.
Beyond this step, here are a few things that I’ve done to help me battle self doubt and Imposter Syndrome:
1. Surround yourself with light: A.K.A. surround yourself with people that believe in you and support you. I used to have several friends that didn’t believe in my goals / dreams and constantly said I needed to “get back to reality.” It was SO hard to cut those people out of my life, but you are a culmination of the 5 people you spend the most time with, and those people weren’t bringing light to my life. Get yourself a good group of individuals who lift you, and your dreams, up. It truly makes a world of difference.
2. Take social media breaks: Another huge factor that contributed to my self doubt with my business, is constantly comparing myself to others on social media. Especially on Instagram. While I could write a whole other blog post on this topic (haha), I will simply say that cutting down to only posting doing the weekdays and limiting myself to an hour a day on the app has revolutionized my life. And helped me be more productive, haha! Try it out. I guarantee it will help you too!
3. Note your strengths: A couple months ago I was in a place where I essentially wanted to throw the towel in with my blog and just be done. I felt unmotivated, unqualified, uninspired. So, with the recommendation of my boyfriend, I got out a notebook and I wrote down all of my strengths. I listed things like, “good at public speaking, likes to encourage others, funny,” etc. Then next to all of these strength I listed how each of them could be used as assets to my business. Next to public speaking I wrote, “host events” then for encouraging others I wrote, “share more of my testimony” and then for funny I wrote, “be goofier online.” Now, I get this notebook out whenever I feel down and remind myself of what I’m good at. Instead of focusing on all the areas I feel like I lack in.
At the end of the day, be encouraged that you’re not alone if you’ve ever felt like this too. I’m right there with you! Be sure to try some of these things out and see if they help you too, because they truly made a world of difference personally.
You got this though, my friend! You are called, you are capable, and you are qualified.
Now go chase those God-sized dreams of yours!
Cheering you on,